My husband and I battle with depression-2
They rushed him to the nearest clinic, glad he is already awake when I reached the place.
As per the doctor’s finding one of the reasons why He collapse is dehydration.
It was Ramadan season, as per the rules, drinking and eating publicly is not acceptable. And sadly, he didn’t take his breakfast that time.
During that year Ramadan falls in the month of August, it was extremely hot. Despite the hunger and thirst, they don’t have any choice but to rush their huge outdoor installation before the deadline.
After few hours of stay in the clinic, when he looks recovered the doctor released us. Hubby’s manager is a great guy he insisted hubby to take off.
When hubby and I talking while on the bed, he told me his feeling when he is about to collapse. He said that moment is unexplainable as if he was about to die.
Back to normal routine, he went to work but this time we are careful, I ensure to prepare his meal. I am checking on him time to time if he is fine.
One week after that incident, during the Eid holiday, they went for a team building in Hatta. He called me sounds happy and enjoying with his colleague.
I supposed to join their outing, but not able to as I have a work. That year I was working in travel agency under a greedy and inconsiderate management.
Everything is fine that day, but it changes by 4 pm. Hubby’s manager called and informed me that they brought my husband to Canadian hospital as he collapses again,
They are near Hatta Dam when he felt terrible chest pain and couldn’t breathe then suddenly he collapsed.
They hurriedly took him in Al Ain clinic, as per doctor suggestions it is better to bring him to the hospital and consult a cardiologist.
Thankfully, the provided health insurance is acceptable in reputable and good hospital in Dubai.
While checking him up, the doctor said he is really weak and need to stay in the hospital overnight.
We are hoping that on the following day, they will allow us to go home but sadly they did not. They will do few study and test to find the main cause of his chest pain and sudden collapse.
Hubby and I jokingly think if a Dentist would check him too. But, seriously we are really worried and scared that time.
Time to time the assigned nurse is monitoring hubby, we constantly ask them for the results. But, of course, we knew that as per protocol only the doctors can tell us the feedback
To cut it short, we stayed in the hospital for 4 and half days. Finally, the doctor has the results, it was Dr. Gabroun the hospital’s cardiologist. The doctor explained everything, as per him they already have an idea about my husband’s condition, but, still, they need a thorough study before disclosing any results.
He only said few lines, but those words, I mean the result never ever came to our mind.
“he is suffering from an anxiety syndromes, a panic attack”
Hubby and I looked at each other with blank reaction, we asked Doc. Gabroun at the same time, anxiety?
Doctor, we don’t want to be rude, but are you sure? I felt dying that time, I was weak and has unbearable chest pain, how come my problem is anxiety related.
Dr. Gabroun patiently explains to us how it happened. His first collapse was real and because of heat and dehydration, but, the second one is the first sign of having a panic attack syndrome.
We didn’t know that he got traumatized, when he felt palpitation on the second attack he suddenly panics and unable to control himself that is why he collapses again.
The doctor assures us that there is nothing major sickness to worry about and advise us to go home.
We are thankful to God that at least, he doesn’t have any serious illness. But, we are not aware how anxiety disease would affect our lives until we reached home.
Staying in the hospital for 4 days is totally stressful, taking note that I had a nine hours duty at work, I was nervous as I might lose my job every time I am leaving my post.
Upon reaching home, I am so excited to take a nap in my own bed, I wanted to rest for a while before unpacking our things and clean all the mess.
But instead of resting, the start of my stress and test to prove my love to hubby begins.
He begs me to bring him back to the hospital as can he feel the same feeling when he collapses. Chest pain and feeling of dying is there again.
Though I am tired, I manage to drive fast from Alquoz to Deira. That time I just recently passed my driving test for about 2 months back, driving in 115 kmph is like I am in roller coaster ride.
When we reached the hospital, we need to put him in the wheelchair as he couldn’t walk and feel so dizzy. Imagine like in a movie, that we are rushing to bring him in the emergency room.
The nurse recognized us that we are the same patient who just checked out 3 hours ago.
I told her “nurse, please help my husband I think he will collapse again, he couldn’t breath at all”
They proceeded on the protocol, usual they check the heart rate and blood pressure, after the assessment, the doctor advised us the same thing that there is nothing wrong with him aside from the panic attack.
But, my hubby is insisting that he can feel the pain and he is not alright, the doctor calms him down and convince him to go home. He felt relieved and follow the doctor advised to go and rest at home.
From then, our fight and arguments started, I was stress every time he calls me at work and asking him to bring to the hospital. During the first few days, I am supporting him totally but my boss gave me a final warning for termination if I will be skipping work and leaving my post.
Every wife would understand how hard to weigh things, your husband needs you, but, at the same time, you know that work is important too in supporting the medication and daily expenses.
I remember one time when I went home he was crying and scared as he cannot breathe and he can feel he is going to die. Because of the stress and pressure, instead of comforting him I shouted him.
“It’s only in your mind, calm down and you will be fine!”
When we consulted again his cardiologist and told him everything, he advised me how to handle the situations. I felt shy as he reminded me that this is the time that my husband needs me most and I am the only person who can help him.
Thanks to Dr. Gabroun, he convinces me to bring my husband to a Psychologist for better treatment.
As I was eager to find a solution to end my husband’s problem, I search for a psychologist quickly and found one in Jumeirah, he is an Indian doctor that I wish I never ever met, we only wasted our AED 750.00